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PREGNANCY ETIQUETTE : THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY OR DO TO EXPECTANT MOTHERS

5/22/2017

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For many women, finding out they are pregnant, given the right situation can be the most incredible time. However it can also be a time with a huge amount of apprehension as her life within ten months will never be the same again.

It’s therefore a very sensitive time for a woman. As her body changes, hormones increase and a woman’s fear of wanting to do ‘the right thing’ before the baby has even made an appearance becomes the most important thing on her mind. From what she puts in her body to what equipment to buy for the baby, to how to care for them when she eventually brings them home. There is a lot to contemplate.

Whilst it’s certainly one of the most amazing things a woman will ever experience, and some women sail through pregnancy, it can also be a hard time for some, with morning sickness (that can actually be all day long sickness for several months) and unbelievable tiredness. On top of this, people have a tendency to treat pregnant women very differently once they find out she is expecting.

It’s easy when you’ve never been pregnant or have been close to someone who has been / is pregnant, to know what one should and shouldn’t say. So save your pregnant friends, family members, stranger’s on the streets feelings by taking note of some common etiquettes to follow when talking to any woman who is pregnant.


​SHOULD YOU BE EATING / DRINKING THAT?
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A woman, upon finding out she is pregnant will no doubt have already begun researching what they can and can’t eat at great lengths. Most have already gone through several OBGYN appointments by the time you've even found out they are expecting and will have a full list of items they can’t eat during pregnancy. See them drinking a cup of coffee? It’s probably the one cup they are allowed a day, or perhaps it’s a decaf. Soft cheese? She probably checked it was pasteurized. Tuna? Perhaps one of her portions for the week. It’s very easy to judge without knowing, so don’t do it. A woman is more than aware of what is going on with her body and won’t be putting her baby in harms way for that cup of coffee. Trust.


WOW, YOU ARE SMALL. IS YOUR BABY HEALTHY?
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Photo Credit: Pinterest (featuring Rachel Zoe) 

Women come in different shapes and sizes and as such will carry differently. A woman’s ‘bump’ size is by no means indicative of her baby’s size or indeed health. She could be small carrying a very average sized baby, or she could be carrying fairly large (lots of fluid perhaps) but be having a small baby. Celebrity stylist Rachel Zoe (above) was very compact throughout both her pregnancies and went on to have an almost 8 pound baby.

A woman knows what she is eating, is probably staying active and chances are she is doing all she can to keep her baby healthy. Any problems? Let the OBGYN notify her. Equally don’t comment on a woman’s large bump. "Are you carrying twins?" is a definite no, no, for obvious reasons.
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​WHERE ARE THE BUMP PICTURES? SEND THEM / POST THEM!!!
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Photo Credit: Blake Lively website. 

​Many women love to show of their bodies when pregnant. However there are some women that simply don’t want to. Perhaps she’s happy to keep her pregnancy as private as possible with her and her partner during this very special time, or perhaps doesn't want to flaunt her changing shape. In addition some women are sensitive to the fact that some of their friends are struggling to have children and simply don't want to cause more hurt by filling their social media feed with baby bump shots.

But most important to remember, a woman’s body is still her own when she becomes pregnant. She hasn't suddenly just become an incubator. It’s not a bump, it’s her body and as such if she hasn’t offered said ‘bump’ picture, don’t ask. It's just awkward. I've heard from many women they find it a very odd request with many feeling that they are being asked so people can judge or compare their bodies, or their ‘bump’ size to other peoples. If a friend asked you for a picture of your boobs would you send it? Probably not. A woman’s stomach isn’t any different. Remember it’s not actually the baby you're asking to see. It’s her body, and not suddenly everyone else’s to inspect and gawk at just because she’s pregnant.


​STARING AT A WOMAN'S STOMACH INSTEAD OF HER FACE


Much like a woman with big boobs and that’s all people see, many people begin to choose to stare at a woman’s stomach before even acknowledging her. Particularly when they are friends or an acquaintance and know they are expecting and are enjoying ‘bump watch’. Again, remember she is still her, not just a pregnant woman and probably doesn’t want to be looked up and down to see if she's 'grown' before you even say hello to her.
 


​OHH.. YOU'RE HAVING A BOY, I BET YOU REALLY WANTED A GIRL! 
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Photo Credit: www.anthropologie.com

Pre-judging someone’s reaction to whether she is having a boy and wants a girl (or vice versa) is highly insulting. I have heard from expectant mothers some horror stories on this subject. When a woman is having a baby she probably has no preference whatsoever on what sex she is having and purely wants a healthy baby. Saying that she must be really ‘disappointed’ to be having a boy / girl is probably the worst thing you can say. Being lucky enough to carry a child for most women is such a joy and having someone inflict their thoughts and feelings on her is not wise. Particularly when paired with, “Better luck next time", "Oh what a shame. Girls are so fun to dress up, such cute girl clothes" or "She could of helped in the kitchen, we need more cooks.” (I told you, horror stories..) A mother-to-be is already in love with her baby and this is a genuine hurt to the heart for her. Don’t-say-it.

SHOULD YOU BE WORKING OUT? HOW LONG ARE YOU GOING TO BE DOING THAT FOR?
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Australian Fitness trainer: Chontel Duncan at 36 weeks pregnant. Photo credit: Chontel Duncan Instagram 

It’s a very old school of thought that women shouldn’t exercise when pregnant. New research has shown that it is extremely beneficial for women to continue exercising throughout pregnancy for as long as she can. Providing she was fit and well before becoming pregnant, she should continue to exercise. It not only helps keep her weight healthy and relives stress, it actually strengthens the baby’s heart during his or her development and well after s/he is born. It also helps reduce the chance of gestational diabetes for the mother and it will hugely help her labor as well as recovery after. So don’t throw a judgmental glance at her when she’s in the gym. She’s doing it for her and her baby and carrying an extra several pounds of baby when lifting those weights whilst she's at it.
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GRABBY-GRABBY
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Photo Credit : Asos.com

​I have heard endless stories from pregnant women about pure strangers coming up to them in supermarkets, café’s, etc and rubbing their stomachs. Again, much like the request for those elusive bump pictures, just because a woman is pregnant, doesn’t suddenly make her body open to the public. Best to keep your hands off the bump!  

LABOR HORROR STORIES 


No woman needs to know your labor horror story. Unless you are very close and they explicitly ask for the graphic details wanting to know a worst case scenario, keep it to yourself. Everyone has a different experience (even from a woman's first child to her second) so just because you had a bad birth doesn’t mean her experience will be the same. Give her tips on what helped you through labor, but don’t give her all the gory details unless she has asked.
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​INUNDATING HER WITH CALLS / TEXTS AROUND THE TIME SHE IS DUE
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A dear friend of mine told me when her due date approached she was so sick of getting calls and texts during that time. Particularly as a first time mother, babies are generally late (often up to two weeks) so getting calls and texts from friends, aunts, grandmas, grandfathers and in laws asking if there is any sign yet, whilst she herself is about ready to pull her hair out for waiting, is probably the last thing she needs. Fear not, the proud parents will be sure to tell you when the baby is ready to be introduced to the world.


​YOU'RE CALLING THEM WHAT?!


​Choosing a name for a child is one of the most important decisions a parent is making on behalf of their child. It's an incredibly hard decision to make and it's impossible to have everyone love the choice of their child's chosen name. Unless it genuinely is verging on child cruelty, best to keep your opinion on their choice of name to yourself.


UNWANTED ADVICE


Another pet peeve I’ve heard over and over from pregnant women; showering unwanted advice on how to raise her child. Each parent has a different lifestyle to the next and as a result will have to raise their child in a different way to the way you may choose (or chose) to raise yours. Doesn’t mean it’s wrong, it’s just different. Each baby is different and the same practices that work on one (even with twins) will not work on the next. Let her decide how to raise her child her way. A mother’s instinct is generally the best one, and she knows what is best for her child. Attachment parenting, co-sleeping or moving the baby out of the parents room after a month? All the parent’s choice and not your place to say whether you think this is the right way or wrong way.
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ALEXIE ARTICLE: MASCARA AND THE DAMAGE IT DOES TO YOUR EYELASHES BY STACY FAN

5/22/2017

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Mascara is one of most common items in a woman’s makeup bag, promising to make eyelashes look thicker, longer and flutterier.
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However, with many of us wearing mascara every day, is there any truth behind the claims that – horror of horrors – mascara makes eyelashes fall out?

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Is Mascara Bad For Your Lashes?
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When used correctly, mascara shouldn’t thin or cause any major eyelash loss. However, if you are using the wrong product for your eyes or using the product incorrectly it could be harming your eyelashes.

 My Eyelashes Keep Falling Out: What Causes This?
Do you ever wonder why your eyelashes are thinning or falling out? Below are some of the reasons you might be losing lashes:
  • Using the Wrong Product
When choosing your eye makeup, try to be aware what mascara is made out of and avoid anything that is petroleum-based. Petroleum is not only harsh on sensitive eyes, but also may affect the growth of your eyelashes. Switching to hypoallergenic and organic mascaras will ensure your eyelashes aren’t being stripped of moisture and won’t effect the growth of eyelashes the way other more chemical based mascaras might.
  • Using Waterproof Mascara
Waterproof mascara is drying on the eyes and is extremely hard to remove. You may not realise it at the time, but during the removal process you might actually be pulling your eyelashes out. Avoid using it everyday and only use when necessary.
  • Using a Product Too Frequently
Did you know that mascara should be replaced every 2-3 months? Eye makeup is more prone to bacteria build up than other cosmetic products – after all, the brush is used daily without being cleaned. Not only will an out-of-date product risk your eyelashes falling out, but also it might have an adverse effect on your vision. As with our skin, eyelashes need time to breathe. If you are using mascara daily, they are rarely getting a break and this will cause them to dry out. Avoid using mascara on days you are at home, and never leave your mascara on overnight.
  • Using Too Much Mascara
Although lashings of mascara will give your eyes a beautiful and dramatic look, it’s not great for the health of your lashes. Using too much mascara will eventually wear your lashes out as they will need to be cleaned more rigorously to ensure the product is fully removed.
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HOW TO LOOK AFTER YOUR EYELASHES


Avoid using harsh eye makeup cleansers to remove makeup.
  • One of the best new products available is Bliss Fabulous Makeup Melt Gel-to-Oil Cleanser. It removes all makeup, including waterproof mascara, gently and easily.
Try natural alternatives to traditional eye makeup remover.
  • If you’ve ever wondered how to remove mascara naturally, coconut oil is a great option for removing eye makeup. It’s not only easy on the eyes and skin, but also helps lock in moisture.
Remove your eye makeup in the right way.
  • It is important to know how to remove mascara and eye makeup correctly. Soften the product on your face and eyes by washing with warm water. Apply the makeup remover on to a cotton pad and using a gentle downward motion on the eyelid start to remove makeup.
  • Never run upwards or in a hard, rigorous motion as this will result in eyelashes falling out.
Use Vaseline on eyelashes. 
  • Did you know: Vaseline is the best clear mascara on the market (seriously!) and, used once or twice a week, gives your eyelashes a much-needed treatment. Apply with either a clean finger or a new, unused mascara wand. Gently wash off in the morning using your normal makeup remover.
The best mascaras that won’t damage your eyelashes:
  • Origins Brightening Mascara to Lengthen & Lift is a great option to avoid damaging eyelashes. It lasts all day, doesn’t clump and won’t irritate sensitive eyes.
  • Organic Glam Natural Mascara is free from artificial colours, fragrances and preservatives. This mascara also contains vitamins A,E and C, organic aloe and beeswax to moisturise lashes while you use it.
  • Maybelline New York Great Lash Mascara is hypoallergenic, contact lens safe and conditions as it thickens your lashes.
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ALTERNATIVE options to mascara

​LVL


WHAT IS IT?

LVL is a treatment that straightens your natural eyelashes at the root. Unlike a traditional lash perm it promises to create the look of longer, lifted lashes in 40 minutes, with immediate results. The treatment effect lasts 6-8 weeks.

PROS

The result is a ‘mascara-type effect’, so you don’t have to use products on your eyelashes on a daily basis. It gives women with flat eyelashes added volume and the treatment doesn’t make eyelashes brittle.

CONS

The treatment costs around £45 depending on the salon you visit, which can get pricey if you plan on doing it every 6 weeks.
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The Official LVL Enhance Lash Lift Video:



​EYELASH TINTING 



WHAT IS IT?

Eyelash tinting is a treatment which involves applying dye to eyelashes to make them appear darker and fuller. Salons will insist on a patch test at least 24 hours in advance to make sure you have no allergies. Dye is applied with a disposable eyelash wand and the treatment takes around 20 minutes.

PROS 

The waterproof colour lasts 6-8 weeks, depending on how fast your eyelashes grow, and with a variety of colours to choose from you are likely to find one that suits you. Tinting helps balance the features of your face and is particularly good if you have very light or fair eyelashes. If you are allergic to mascara or wear contact lenses and find it creates a reaction with your eyes, it’s a great alternative.
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CONS

Despite delivering a slightly more defined appearance for those seeking the natural look, tinting doesn’t create a thicker or fuller lash, so fake eyelashes or mascara is still needed. The colour may fade out before the 6-8 weeks as you wash your face, and the tint may cause you to have an allergic reaction if you happen to be sensitive to dyes. Doing a skin spot test 24 hours prior to your appointment is always recommended. The process can get expensive if you are tinting your eyelashes every month, with prices starting around £20 for the treatment.
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​eyelash EXTENSIONS 


WHAT IS IT?
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If you love the look false eyelashes give you but don’t like reapplying them every time you have a big event or a night out, you may be tempted to try semi-permanent eyelash extensions.
The process involves applying either a synthetic, silk or mink fibre individually to your real lashes one by one with adhesive, to create a naturally long looking eyelash. Depending on what style you choose, the process can take anywhere between 2-3 hours. The lashes should last between 2-3 weeks before needing to be filled in. For those wanting to keep up with their eyelash extensions it’s recommend you don’t wait any longer than three weeks before having a fill in. Those who go back regularly to a salon won’t have to have a whole new set applied.

PROS

Eyelash extensions will give you a glamorous flutter without the need for mascara each day. It will save you time in the morning and give you a touch of glamour even when you aren’t wearing any other products.

CONS

Despite how beautiful eyelash extensions look there are several cons:

1. Time

People rave about how long eyelash extensions save them in the morning, but what is often left out is the time it takes to apply them in the first place. It can take up to 3 hours to apply the individual lashes for a full set, and then you’ll need to re-visit the salon every 2-3 weeks for infills.

2. High Maintenance

To keep your lashes looking good requires a decent amount of maintenance. Aside from the infills mentioned above, every few weeks, you are also limited on certain products you can use on your face. Oil based products aren’t recommended as it may remove the adhesive on your lashes. You must also be careful when removing makeup to avoid pulling the extensions out.
When showering, it’s important not to let water directly hit your eyes. Be careful when drying your face with a towel, too, as harsh rubbing will pull at the eyelash extensions.
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3. Cost
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In addition to the maintenance required, eyelash extensions are expensive. A full set at a London salon costs from £80-£130, with infills costing around £50, depending on the salon.
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​CELEBRITIES WHO WEAR FAKE EYELASHES 


If you have problems with your eyelashes you aren’t alone. In fact, both Towie star Samantha Faiers (who has launched her own range of fake eyelashes which you can buy here) and actress Olivia Munn have openly discussed losing eyelashes due to trichotillomania.
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​What is Trichotillomania?

One of the lesser talked about reasons for having no eyelashes is trichotillomania. This is a repetitive disorder of pulling out hair, including eyelashes, and is particularly rife during stressful periods.
Speaking to the Daily Mail, Samantha Faiers said of the disorder, “It is hard to explain. I do it without thinking; when I am nervous or bored or even when I am asleep; I don’t even realise I am doing it.”
Olivia Munn has also spoken out about the anxiety that causes her trichotillomania to occur, telling The New York Post in 2012, “If I were to walk into someone’s birthday party, I’d have a bad anxiety attack. I don’t bite my nails, but I rip out my eyelashes. It doesn’t hurt, but it’s really annoying. Every time I run out of the house, I have to stop and pick up a whole set of fake eyelashes.”
As of yet there has been no medication approved for the treatment of trichotillomania. If you think you may have this then please speak with your doctor about the options available to you.


Eyelash Regrowth
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What can you do if you are losing eyelashes or find them rapidly thinning?
Many people swear by Latisse for eyelash regrowth. Used on the base of the eyelashes, this product creates longer lashes, although the effects are not permanent. Latisse is a version of a glaucoma drug used in an eye drop called bimatoprost. The product can be used on the upper lids, but should not be used on the lower lids. There have been cases of eye colour and eyelids darkening whilst using the product.
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There are also a new generation of mascaras on the market that are makeup and eyelash regrowth treatments all in one. Yes, that’s right: mascara that makes your eyelashes grow is finally here. Hurrah! The best of the bunch are Lancome Hypnôse Precious Cells Mascara, which promises longer, denser lashes after 28 days, and L’Oreal Paris Double Extension Renewal Serum Mascara, a combined serum and mascara that gives eyelashes a fortifying boost.
Common Questions Regarding Healthy Eyelashes

Do eyelashes grow back?

Generally speaking, yes! If you lose an eyelash then a new hair will grow back from the follicle and replace the other hair.

How long does it take for eyelashes to grow back?

It usually takes about 7-8 weeks for eyelashes to grow back.

Why are my eyelashes falling out/what causes eyelashes to fall out?

There are numerous reasons for eyelashes to fall out; an unbalanced diet can be one of the reasons as well as using too many harsh products (including too much mascara which you vigorously rub off) on your eyelashes. Always be sure to gently remove any eye makeup at night to avoid drying your eyelashes out.

How many eyelashes do we have?

It will vary from person to person, but on average people have 150-200 on the upper lid and somewhere between 75-100 on the lower lid.

Do eyelashes grow back after lash extensions?

If you notice that you’re losing eyelashes during the process or after removal, don’t worry: they will grow back! They only grow about 1cm every 2-4 weeks so it may take time for you to notice.

How many eyelashes do we lose a day?

Everyone loses around 1-4 eyelashes a day, but this is dependent on how you look after your eyelashes.

Is it bad to sleep with mascara on?
One of the worst things you can do for your lashes is sleep with your mascara on. It dries them out, weakens them and may well cause them to break and fall out. Always remove your makeup before bed.

How long does mascara last?

Mascara has a shelf life of only around 2-3 months. As soon as you notice it getting clumpy, it’s time to toss it out!

How do I make my eyelashes longer, thicker and flutterier?
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Like all things related to health, it starts from the inside. If you’re wondering how to make your eyelashes longer and thicker, eating a balanced diet with lots of vegetables and fruit is the place to start. For a helping hand, a clear mascara or eyelash primer can be worn underneath your favourite mascara (after all, the very purpose of clear mascara is to give your lashes a little bit of curl – which is why it can also be worn independently when you want to look super natural). Occasionally give your eyelashes the day off, too, and always opt for organic, hypoallergenic mascara.

Read more great articles on women’s beauty & makeup at alexie.co.

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Written By Stacy Fan 

All images : Pinterest. 
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